Stupid Things Girls Say

"I really want to know why he doesn't like me."

Um. No. I don't think you do. Let's dissect that for a moment. If someone doesn't like you, why in the hell would you want to hear them list the reasons why? That sounds like an awful idea. It also sounds like you are a tad deluded and think you are so wonderful that there is no way a boy could come up with a logical reason to not be interested. Did Hitler have a logical reason to not like the Jews? Nope. Perhaps you should watch Inglorious Bastards instead of Pretty Woman. In real life, no one likes hookers...especially not rich people. Hitler probably didn't like hookers either.

Anyways, I'm going to be harsh about this one because its pretty much the whole reason I started writing this blog. I really hope that you girls are only saying this to your friends just so you can hear them respond with "You are too pretty for him. He is obviously retarded and threatened by how skinny and successful you are". I have laid out the below scenario for those idiots who decide to request a description of why they are terrible from their love interest . Maybe this dialogue of what could actually happen will stop you:

You: Mike, I am an awesome person, my friends tell me how great I am and I haven't refused you anything sexually...why don't you like me?

Mike: Um, this is weird...I don't think we need to get into it...

You: Honestly, I have low self esteem because my mother did an awful job of teaching me how to handle boys. I really need you to explain what I did wrong.

Mike: You are kind of doing it right now...listen...we stopped talking a month ago. It's not a big deal. Some stuff just came up and...

You: You stopped calling me!!!! All my friends said I shouldn't call you and that I should wait for you to call but then you didn't and I need to know why. What happened!??!?!?

Mike: I don't know. Nothing really. It's not a big deal. I didn't want to get too serious and I have a lot of stuff going on at work...

You: JUST TELL ME WHAT I DID

Mike: Wow. Alright. Fine. I'm going to tell you. Remember when you slept over and put your jeans back on in the morning and they were way too tight? You were like "ew gross I totally have a muffin top! I'm going on a diet." Well right after that you asked me if I wanted to go to brunch. When we got there, you ordered a fruit medley and I ordered pancakes. You proceeded to throw down your entire medley in under 26 seconds along with 2/3 of my pancakes. Then you tried to sneakily unbutton the top of your jeans at the table. Perhaps you should stop bitching about muffin tops and just buy bigger pants.

Oh and how about the weekend we went to my friend from home's birthday party? You got blackout drunk on Sprite and Raspberry vodka and then asked all the girls there if they hooked up with me. Then you puked all night in my bathroom and binge-ate my roommate's entire 48-pack of PopTarts that he got from Costco. I had to pay $30 to buy replacements at the Duane Reade.

Another thing that's awful is you insisting I sleep over at your apartment during weekdays. I have to wear slacks and a f*cking button down shirt to work. Girls pretty much wear whatever they want, ironed or not. If you want to "have a sleepover" throw your $hit in your ginormous, overpriced purse and come to my apartment. It's not my fault that my roommate makes you feel awkward...you took an entire box of his PopTarts to the face.

Finally, no matter how many times you ask, I am not going to yoga, pilates, the new Twilight movie, or a Dashboard concert with you. Every other girl in the world wants to go to all of those things...why do you feel the need to force it on me? And you can't used the excuse "But I went to that Rangers game with you..." because I would have rather gone with my brother to that game and you pretty much invited yourself.

There. Is that what you needed? Trust me, I was being nice. You don't want some d-bag telling you exactly why he didn't want to talk to you anymore. That's why I'm here.

"I know he has a girlfriend but he said he's going to break up with her."

Really? He told you that? No $hit. I'm sure he's totally willing to cause a huge scene with his girlfriend of 8 years and start dating you. There's no way you aren't just a drunk mistake or the whore on the side who will do all the freaky stuff his current girlfriend won't do. Ugh.

Let me first target the friends of the girl who is saying this. How are you responding? If its with anything except a slap across the face you are the worst friends ever.

If some dude with a girlfriend falls deeply in love with you, the girlfriend will be gone. If she's still around and you are kept on the down low then you are just as big of an idiot as he is. I love this one because girls will always be like "yeah but he's sooooo nice when we are together, you don't get it!" Ohhh ok. I don't get it? Let me explain why he is so nice...

With you, my skanky friend, he has no worry of any long term commitment issues. He's been open about having a girlfriend and you put yourself in the situation willingly. He also doesn't need to be on guard for questions like "My mom wants to know if we should be expecting you at my Aunt's 85th Birthday" or "I called the other night at 10:30 and it went to voicemail, where were you?". You can't say anything of these things because you are the awesome chick that tempted him into cheating on his girlfriend. Your side of the relationship is supposed to be sneaky and fun. If you can handle that then fine...if not, shut the hell up.

Let me guess, he called you at 11:30pm and said plans fell through with his friends and asked you to come over?

In actuality, he already went out to dinner with his gf and her parents, but she had to get up early for work. When she decided to just stay at her place after dropping her parents off at the train, he realized the perfect booty call opportunity. All he needs to do is shoot you a quick, easily deletable, text and its on.

Of course you will play hard to get and respond with something like "I really like you but I don't know if this is a good idea..." and he will say "You don't have to do anything you don't want to do." You will be over there by 11:37 all showered, shaved and decked out in a sexy nurse outfit.

Your friends might tell you to talk to him about it, but if you have any self respect...just don't say anything and cut it off. Here is a list of exactly what you should do:

1) Stop responding to calls/texts/Facebook/myspace or anything along those lines. Odds are he won't try that hard to contact you...

2) Enter into a written document with a friend who isn't an idiot and will agree to physically intervene if you decide to do this again. I will offer to perform this service for a negotiated price.

3) Give yourself one night to drink wine by yourself and cry, however, DO NOT watch a romantic movie. Watch "Marley and Me" or "Homeward Bound" or some other movie where cute animals die. Get your crying going without wanting to kill yourself...

4) The next day, go to the gym, clean your room, and go shopping. However, do NOT buy bigger pants. That's why I said "go to the gym". Muffin tops are gross...

"I just called because I'm walking down the street and wanted to say hi!"

NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO. Stop it. Right now. Hang up. I just got annoyed typing that sentence.

This is so freaking awful. I once dated a guy (yes a guy) who called me and said this. I hated him immediately. Why are you calling me if you have nothing to tell me? Are you trying to give me brain cancer?

I don't get why girls have such a difficult time walking down the street alone. Lots of people do it everyday. No one thinks less of you for doing it. There was a girl at my gym that would actually talk on the phone while doing the hip abduction machine and climbing the Stair Master. Honestly, I think she was faking it and talking to herself.

I am going to get a little philosophical and say that this comes from girls who are afraid to be alone. Yup, I'm talking to you serial daters. Its ok for you to go to lunch by yourself or go to a show alone. I seriously paid for at least 2 months of anti-depressants for Kristen Stewart with the amount of times I saw "Twilight" by myself in the theater.

If you have problems walking down the street alone, buy an ipod. If you are simply looking for an excuse to contact your lovah...use these:

1- Hi- would you mind running those reports for the entire quarter and emailing them to me? I'm going to work from home.

This is a good one because when he says "umm I think you have the wrong number" you can be like "OMG I dialed the wrong Chris! I'm sorry...I can't talk right now bc I'm super busy but we should hang out or something. See ya!" You will sound really busy and important. If you still need to talk on the phone, call one of your friends and tell her how great it worked. Don't call him back and repeat that phrase or anything close to it. He will probably catch on...

2- Random question, you aren't in the Hollywood Tans on Broadway are you?

When he (hopefully) answers no, you can say "Wow, there is a guy that I saw walk in there that looked JUST like you. I'm really glad I was wrong.." then continue the conversation. This can be modified by saying "in the salon by the Petco getting a pedicure" or "at the Sanrio store in the mall" or anything along those lines. On a side note...boys that go tanning are usually weird. Just something to think about.

I am only going to give you 2 excuses because if you need more you should probably stop calling him. Call your mom and have her tell you how special you are. That will help...

"I really thought I meant something more to him..."

Again, why would you ever want to say this out loud? This is one of those phrases that is acceptable to ponder to yourself and maybe say out loud once to your close friends...but after that, shut the eff up.

If you were dumped then move on. Clearly, you didn't mean much or you would still be dating. To reinforce what I said before, why would you dwell on someone who is over you?

The best is when the girl says this to one of the guy's friends. WTF. I'm sorry sweetheart, but that guy definitely went back to you ex-boy toy, high-fived him, and then talked about what a pathetic loser you are. I have seen it happen first hand. The girls in the room will say something like "aww that's not cool, don't say that..." but we all think it's funny too. This usually happens when the girl is younger and all googley-eyed for an older man. Or, even worse, a virgin...

Ah virgins. They loooooove this question. Handing the V-card out (especially to someone older and more experienced) is like going straight to the black belt test in karate. You better be one tough, badass. Girls are always weirdly obsessed with the first person they do it with and, to be honest, I'm not sure why. Unless you gave it up to Zac Efron, in Jay-Z's penthouse, surrounded by caged jungle cats while Aerosmith preformed "Don't Wanna Miss a Thing"...I'm really not that interested. If you are a virgin...stick with other virgins. That way you will stay disease free and have something to hold over his head if he does screw you over.

That concludes my lecture for this evening. I hope everyone understands that I am not trying to make fun of anyone or make light of anything that Hitler did. I just want to open the eyes of girls and make them a little less stupid. If you are in love then that's just effing lovely...just please remember that in real life crap happens. Boys can be d-bags, Julia Roberts got divorced, and Serendipity is for tourists. God Bless America.